Finding Soulmate Love in a Pandemic

While most of the world is thinking and feeling like quarantine and Covid is a curse for their dating lives.

It was the opposite for me. For me, it allowed the love I had been looking for to find me.

How can you do this? By showing up for yourself more, love yourself more, accept yourself more.

It’s time to get closer to yourself and become a safe space for love from yourself. From there, you can let some big love in.

Next, take a look at what you are doing. Does this match the way you desired to feel? Do you want to do less and experience more flow, fun, and ease in meeting high caliber single men?

Here are the changes that worked for me:

I started by deleting 2 of my apps and went into a 3-week quarantine
And THEN I manifested my partner.

I spent more time at home than ever before.
I was not going out and meeting people.
I went on zero dates.
I was checking the one app I was on one time a week.
I didn’t swipe right on any profiles.

I was as passive as I could possibly be about meeting someone.

It was also as laid back as I had been the entire 1.5 years of choosing to actively date.

The first approach I tried:
❌Being on 4 different dating apps (really hoping to increase my reach and odds)
❌Going on blind dates
❌Having more of a nightlife
{I roll my eyes at myself as I type this, logically I knew this wouldn’t work.}

❌Letting my friends set me up with their friends.
❌Letting family members try to set me up.
❌Spending hours that I am embarrassed to admit to swiping on apps.
{I probably spent 7+ hours a week for screen time on my dating quest. That is a full workday

I was doing SO MUCH and getting very little promising results. And what’s worse is how I felt.

I am not throwing shade on any of these channels. If they worked for you great. They didn’t work for me and I felt wrong because of it.

To the point where I began swearing off dating altogether.

I had many times I would swear off apps and not use them. Only to bend the rules and not stick to my goal and be back on them and telling no one about it.

None of this is about the exact details of what I was doing. Or what channels (dating apps or not) that I used.

It is about how I felt as I did it. The energy and action I took and my “why” behind it.

It’s clear that the first way I tried was all about my need to be in control. To know that I was utilizing all channels (at the same time) to better my chances.

When I actually felt fear that meeting, not just someone but the guy for me…just wasn’t in the cards for me.

I think the fact that I met the man with who I have the relationship that I have waited my entire life to be in…in a global pandemic.

Speaks volumes.

It is evident that it’s not really about the external crap. The channels. Where you meet them. Or really even the method you choose to find them.

If it really were then how did I meet someone who has everything I’ve wanted and qualities I never knew I wanted? When the world was ordered to social distance for who knows how long? When the vibe was total uncertainty and so much stress?

I believe it was possible and had EVERYTHING to do with my beliefs, energy, and the mindset I moved and took action from.

It’s time to show up for yourself more, love yourself more, accept yourself more.

It’s time to get closer to yourself and become a safe space for love from yourself. From there, you can let some big love in.