Break free from dysfunctional patterns

Did you know me circa November 2018???

Before my mindset transformation. Before I learned to trust in my voice & quit second-guessing everything.

When being critical of myself was automatic & constant.

Did you know this version of me?
What do you remember about her?

Yesterday, I was having a conversation with a grad school gal pal and she shared something with me that was so humbling.

Our conversation reminded me that I am NO LONGER THAT girl. 🥺🙏🏽🙏🏽

Who was filled with all kinds of self-doubt.
And lacked any confidence. What I did have was an endless capacity for put-downs. Targeted at me.

Over a year ago I sat in a graduate-level class, as someone receiving my second master's.
Yet I felt very out of place.

Which was obvious in how I followed up everything I said with…
“I don’t know if that made sense…probably not.”
“I don’t really know..that’s how I looked at it…not sure if that’s right.”

This was a very toxic trait that I carried with me after spending too long being invisible in relationships.

Tell me is this you too?
Have you struggled with your confidence & in believing that you ARE worthy of the love you want?

You’re not alone. Your feelings aren’t crazy or made up. This is normal for so many people. But it doesn’t have to be.

And feeling unseen and unloved should never be as good as it gets.

The truth is learning to love yourself when the person you wanted to…didn’t and disappointed you.

Is the most freeing thing you can do for yourself.

Along with a refusal to be knocked down by someone who lacks the capacity to love you in a considerate way. And to get rid of the toxic traits that once served you in that dysfunctional relationship.

To no longer need them because you are never going back to any of it. The dysfunction. Walking on eggshells. Disrespect. Lack of support. Ignored needs.

Instead, you have raised your expectations & rose above and beyond the part of you that used to tolerate this.

A lot will change for you when you realize your worth. Your ACTUAL worth. That YOU determine.

Without basing it off of a person who is hurt and in need of their own healing.

Where you look back and say… dysfunctional relationships feel like another lifetime ago for me.